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Why do we torture ourselves over the actions of another?
Yes I am still beating myself up over what went on Sunday, and it's no good for my health.
We struggle to get by each month, and usually it ends up with us getting more into debt than out of it, yet when it comes to my nieces and nephews I never forget a birthday present, or a Christmas gift.
They all get the same, £10 for birthday and £10 or £15 for Christmas depending on what we can afford that year.
Yet hubby's sister can afford to save up and spend £100 on a Nintendo DS for her and £100 on one for her daughter, just because she wanted one and her daughter played with hers, yet can't afford a card for her only nephew & niece on their birthdays, and gets them the cheapest gift she can for Christmas, usually around £2.50 each, but mostly less than £5.
The worst of it is that she doesn't even put any thought into the gifts either, she just gets the cheapest thing she can from Matalan or Woolworths.
The biggest joke is she asked what daughter would like for her birthday this year, I told her I didn't know, I wish I has said a card from her would make a change.
The other part that is beating me round the head is what mother-in-law said about me and the kids not going as she didn't want too many there, yet our niece was there with her father, could they not have stayed at home, after all she didn't want me there, yet he can go. That was just down right mean and cruel.
My mother-in-law has upset me more than the anniversary of my dad passing.
She couldn't even ask how we were, she didn't know it was a year to the day, she didn't have a clue and couldn't care less.
The next thing I will hear is that she has been moaning at my mum again because we never go to see them, yet she doesn't want us there so why moan when we don't turn up?
My problem is that because her hubby is so close to dying I dare not say anything as we won't be welcome at the funeral, and it is hubby's dad, I don't want to cause more problems I can see there being enough to cope with, without me giving out buckets of home truths.
The truth is I am upset about my dad, but it has all been suppressed by mother-in-law's actions (or lack of) and I need for the upset to come out because bottling it all up is no good to anyone, least of all me.